Posted: February 3, 2013 Filed under: alt-porn, Chus Martinez, fetishism, film, pornography, sex | Tags: BDSM, bottom, cross-dressing, effeminiphobia, erotic humiliation, feminime men, feminine, forced feminisation, gay, gender, homophobia, infantalist, infantilism, masculinity, men, misogyny, queens, queer studies, sadomasochism, shemale, sissy, sissy baby, sissy maker, sissymaker, sissymaker porn, sissymaker video, sissyphobia, tomboy, transgender
Sissy (derived from sister, also sissy baby, sissy boy, etc.) is a pejorative term for a boy or man who violates or does not meet the standard male gender role. Generally, sissy implies a lack of courage and stoicism, which are thought important to the conventional bourgeois male role.
A man might also be considered a sissy for being interested in traditional feminine hobbies or employment (e.g., being fond of fashion), displaying effeminate behaviour (e.g., saying “mua mua” before hanging up the phone or using creams), being unathletic, or being homosexual.
Sissy is, approximately, the male converse of tomboy (a girl with masculine traits or interests), but has none of the latter’s positive connotations. Even amongst gay men, behaviour thought of as sissy or camp produces mixed reactions. Some men reclaim the term for themselves.
The term sissyphobia denotes a negative cultural reaction against “sissy boys”. Sissyphobia has more recently been used in some queer studies; other authors in this latter area have proposed effeminiphobia as an alternative term.
Sissyphobia arises as combination of misogyny and homophobia. Acting straight regardless of sexual orientation produces and reproduces anti-femininity and homophobia. For example, feminine gay men are often labelled “fem,”“bitchy,” “pissy,” “sissy,” or “queen. They are perceived as acting like “women,” spurring straight-acting gay men to have negative attitudes toward gay feminine men. This is sissyphobia.
Masculinity has been (historically) defined as the flight from women and the repudiation of femininity. Thus, sissyphobia becomes a strategy for straight-acting gay and straight men to justify and empower their masculinity.
Sissy takes on more specific meanings in the transgender, infantilist, and BDSM communities (especially through forced feminization or petticoating practices). In the BDSM practice of forced feminisation, the male bottom undergoing cross-dressing may be called a sissy as a form of erotic humiliation, which may elicit guilt or sexual arousal, or possibly both, depending on the individual.
In infantilism, a sissy baby is a man who likes to play the role of a baby girl.
In recent years a new genre of porn has emerged that claims to cure straight-acting men (regardless of their actual sexuality) of their straightness and sexism – the sissymaker video. These are fast cut scratch-style shorts of various conventional porn acts spliced with hypnotic, psychedelic and subliminal or near subliminal elements that allegedly turn straight-acting men into sissies!
Whether sissymaker videos actually do what their makers’ claim is a moot point, but watching porn (and especially shemale porn) just became even more fun!