Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating the man’s anus with a strap-on dildo. The neologism “pegging” was popularized when it became the winning entry in a contest in Dan Savage’s “Savage Love” sex advice column, held after an observation was made that there was no common name for the act.
In terms of physical pleasure, a woman’s genitals may get direct stimulation from the base of the dildo, or in the case of a double-ended dildo, from vaginal (or internal) penetration. A woman can use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her genitals, to get pleasure from pegging. Men may find stimulation of the anus, rectum, and adjacent organs enjoyable. During anal sex, male pleasure can be particularly derived from the prostate, which can lead to an orgasm and ejaculation. Some men enjoy masturbating (or being manually stimulated) during pegging.
Advice columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes all men should try pegging at least once, as it may introduce them to a new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate them to the receiver’s perspective in sex.
A few instructional movies and books have emerged in recent years, including Bend Over Boyfriend (1998), co-produced by Fatale Media, Inc., and created and directed by Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano, SIR Video Movies co-founders. Bend Over Boyfriend originally inspired Dan Savage to call the act ‘BOB’ but his readers subsequently voted on the winning term, pegging.
American pornographic film director and sex educator Tristan Taormino released an instructional pegging movie in 2009 by Vivid Entertainment Studio, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men, featuring a detailed explanation about male anal pleasure and strap-on dildo sex. In it, she teaches a workshop with instructions and skills for safe and pleasurable female on male anal sex. There are three scenes, in which pairs of pornographic actors explore different sexual devices and positions for pegging.
As an accomplished author of numerous sex guides and informational books on various sexual taboos, Violet Blue wrote and released The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex in 2007.
Pegging has recently been featured in a number of pornographic movies. The first pegging scene (long before the term was developed) appears to have been in the non-pornographic 1970 film Myra Breckinridge, based on the novel of the same name by Gore Vidal, although it was not explicit. The first explicit pegging scene is believed to have been in the 1975 pornographic film The Opening of Misty Beethoven. There is a depiction of pegging in the 1959 novel Naked Lunch by William Burroughs. The dildo used in the scene is called a Steely Dan III, and is the source from which the musical group Steely Dan takes its name.
Female-to-male strap-on pornography became a popular sub-genre in the United States in the early 21st century, with a number of studios producing dedicated series about it. Pegging films include Strap It On (black women on white men), Babes Balling Boys (with sixteen editions), Strap Attack, Strap-on Sirenz, Strap-on Chicks, Boss Bitches (with over two dozen editions), various movies produced by LEDA Studios, and San Francisco-based Men In Pain. Several hundred exclusively pegging films were produced, as well as twice as many bisexual and straight films with strap-on scenes.
Well-known female porn stars who expressed their pleasure in pegging their male partners include Taylor Wane, Debi Diamond, Brittany Andrews, and Monique Covét. When questioned about her particular kink Covét replied, “If we women have to take it from behind, then why not a man?”
Salirophilia is a sexual fetish or paraphilia in which erotic pleasure is gained from soiling or disheveling the object of one’s desire, usually an attractive man or woman. It may involve tearing or damaging their clothing, covering them in mud or filth, or messing up their hair or makeup. The fetish does not involve harming or injuring the subject, it simply consists of ruining their appearance.
Salirophilia is related to wet and messy fetishism, bukkake, omorashi, mysophilia, urolagnia and coprophilia, but extends to other areas such a forcing the partner to wear torn or poorly fitting clothing and other actions that make them appear unattractive.
The fetish sometimes manifests itself in the defacing of statues or pictures of attractive people, especially celebrities or fictional characters. It is common to refer to the practice involving ejaculating on a photo as “facepainting”. The fetishist finds this sexually exciting, rather than mere vandalism. They sometimes form collections of defaced art for future enjoyment. A video of the fetishist ejaculating on a picture of someone or a photo depicting the result is known colloquially as a “tribute”.
The term comes from the French for soiling, salir. In cases where the fetish is obsessive it is called saliromania. It is frequently confused with salophilia, an attraction to salt or salty things (especially body sweat) that derives from the Latin for salt, sal.
Mysophilia refers explicitly to soiled or dirty material or people. Mysophiliacs may find dirt, soiled underwear, faeces, or vomit to be sexually arousing.
It is possible (although not necessary) for people with mysophilia to be aroused by unclean locations, such as alleyways, dirty rooms, filthy toilets; wearing the same clothing for many days at a time; or not bathing, sometimes for a few days, or possibly even weeks.
Emetophilia is a paraphilia in which an individual is sexually aroused by puking or observing others vomit. This is commonly referred to as a vomit fetish or puke fetish. Some emetophiles put their perversion of choice into practice by actually doing the technicolour yawn, often on a sexual partner.
Vomiting as a sex act is sometimes called a Roman shower, after the commonly held but mistaken belief that regurgitating food was an integral part of Roman feasts. In this urban myth ancient Romans are alleged to have thrown up after binge eating so that they could return to their feasts to eat more!
Some emetophiles find the act of chundering arousing; for them, the sequence of “spasm, ejaculation, relief” in retching is erotically charged. Other emetophiles are aroused by seeing, hearing, and/or smelling others heaving up their guts.
Some puke fetish enthusiasts desire a partner who will barf on them, while others wish to induce hurling in a partner, or even to force them to throw up. Wanting to be vomited on may be related to a desire to be dominated, while wanting to make someone else puke may stem from a desire to dominate the partner and it can be seen as a form of erotic humiliation. Emetophiles may have any combination of these desires at any time.
Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice in which a heightened state of sexual arousal is maintained for an extended length of time without orgasm, and is commonly practiced in association with BDSM and sexual bondage. Erotic sexual denial can be another name for or variant of orgasm control. Erotic sexual denial is a form of sex play.
One form of erotic sexual denial is the reduction or deprivation of all genital stimulation. To ensure a complete absence of genital stimulation, a chastity device may be used as a physical barrier to genital touch or full erection. Tease and denial describes a situation where a person’s genitalia are stimulated until he or she is close to the point at which orgasm would normally be inevitable. At that point, direct stimulation of the genitals is reduced or stopped, so as to keep the recipient on the very brink or “edge” of orgasm (as with orgasm control) but without the promise of orgasm at the end.
If orgasm still occurs after removal of stimulation, it typically brings less pleasure than usual, and is considered a “ruined orgasm”, as opposed to being a “denied orgasm” (sometimes known as “blue balls”). Alternatively (for men), the release of semen during the emission phase of ejaculation might be prevented by some sort of constriction (“blocked orgasm”). Depending on the relationship, subjects might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times, but without actual orgasm, causing feelings of intense arousal and psychological need.
To be able to control an orgasm of a partner in such sex games, physical restraints are commonly used. Situations involving bondage are typically called tie and tease and can be thought of as extended tease and denial games. This practice is often an integral part of erotic denial. Tie and tease activities are physically as well as psychologically intense, because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are escalated by the sensation of helplessness induced by bondage.
The practice of total sexual denial usually includes total avoidance of genital stimulation. This often involves the use of a physical barrier or device such as a chastity belt. Chastity belts or similar locking devices are available for both men and women. Depending on the situation, sexual arousal may still be achieved regardless of physical barriers to genital stimulation. However, this depends on the belt used.
A related practice is that of the deconstructed orgasm, in which stimulation and arousal is conducted at a very slow pace, allowing the ‘stimulator’ to obtain feedback from the ‘stimulatee’ (generally spoken, but conceivably obtained by means of body language or measuring certain bodily responses and functions). Depending upon the accuracy of the feedback, the progress towards eventual release can be judged more accurately than would be the case in an unfettered encounter, allowing the possibility of the orgasm to be delivered (whereupon observations and measurements may be continued) or of stimulation to be withdrawn or decreased in the closing stages, leading to a ruined orgasm as described below.
Where orgasm denial has been pushed to the limits, in some instances actual orgasm doesn’t materialize. This according to research accounts for a small percentage of the 70% – 80% of women that don’t reach climax during sexual intercourse. Erotic sexual denial, in various forms, is sometimes associated with creating a state of sexual need leading to a more pliable or agreeable outlook by the denied party.
Orgasm denial practices can allow dominant lovers to exercise control and training over highly intimate and psychologically significant aspects of their submissive lovers’ lives. This can extend to tolerance of increased stimulation and training both to hold back orgasm, or to orgasm on command. Dominant lovers can use this practice to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power. Submissive lovers can use this practice to help them experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of erotic submission, sexualised objectification and erotic loss of control.
Orgasm denial as a method of orgasm control is a widely practiced activity within BDSM erotic feminisation. The top will often deny the submissive feminised man sexual release to maintain his heightened state of sexual arousal, as a way to satisfy his desires for erotic humiliation, or as a way to satisfy the dominant’s own desires to erotically humiliate.
Sexercises are physical exercises performed during sexual intercourse, sexual foreplay, or in preparation for sexual activity designed to tone, build, and strengthen muscles. Sexercises are often performed as part of a sex diet lifestyle, which seeks to maximize the health benefits of regular sexual activity. While sexercises are usually performed with a partner, solitary masturbation might be considered a sexercise if done athletically for health and fitness.
Sexercises range from Kegel exercise (a variation on Pilates in which the pelvic floor muscles are tightened) to aerobic and cardiovascular routines. Flexibility for performing contortion specifically for erotic or sexual positions may also be practised. Most often this takes the form of spreading the legs for the missionary position, and arching of the back for doggy style. Intense forward bending may be practised in pursuit of autofellatio and the sought after, cartooned, and imagined autocunnilingus. Yoga, of course, was originally developed as a sexual discipline.
Arnold Kegel published his pelvic floor exercise in 1948. Now commonly called a Kegel exercise, these consist of repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor – now sometimes colloquially referred to as the “Kegel muscles”. Several tools exist to help with these exercises, although various studies debate the relative effectiveness of this equipment versus traditional exercises. Kegel exercises are usually done to reduce urinary incontinence, reduce urinary incontinence after childbirth, and reduce premature ejaculation in men; as well as to increase the size and intensity of male erections, and to allow women to grip the male member tightly during penetrative sex. Joseph Pilates developed an earlier and more extensive health system that stressed pelvic floor strengthening, and this pre-Kegel system is now known as Pilates.
According to the British National Health Service Direct website, “sexercise” may lower the risk of heart attack and help you live longer. Endorphins released during orgasm stimulate immune system cells, which can also target illnesses like cancer, as well as reducing wrinkles. This NHS (ultimately the British government) advice was published under the headline “Get more than zeds in bed”.
Glass fetishism is a fetishistic attraction to people wearing prescription glasses, sunglasses, or cosmetic contact lenses.
Glasses fetishism also encompasses the act of wearing glasses or the glasses themselves in cases where they are ‘seen’ as sexually arousing.
Other related activities include wearing glasses during sexual acts and ejaculation on glasses.
Glasses fetishism may be linked to a sexual attraction to librarians – who are perceived as intellectual and as belonging to a profession dominated by females who wear classes (although neither is necessarily always the case).
Popular culture in the form of myths about the sale of soiled “sexy librarian’s knickers (panties)” etc., often links glasses fetishism and librarian fetishism to underwear fetishism.
Related fetishised sexual attractions that often involve glasses and intellectual women are for schoolmarms (women teachers – especially those who are strict and old-fashioned) and art curators.
Art curators are generally perceived as more fashionable and less frumpy than librarians or schoolmarms, and generally appeal less to those with masochistic tendencies and more to those with a sunglasses rather than prescription glasses fetish.
Contemporary ideas about the art curator being fashionable seem to be based more on the expansion of curation as a postgraduate university subject (studied mostly by women in their twenties – and so those seemingly hip curators are in fact mostly students) than on the slightly older women and men who actually work as art curators in galleries (and who are probably more likely wear prescription glasses than sunglasses).
Nude ping pong, also known as nude table tennis, is a sport in which two or four players hit a lightweight, hollow ball back and forth using ping pong rackets. The game takes place on a hard table divided by a net. Except for the initial serve, nude players must allow a ball played toward them only one bounce on their side of the table and must return it so that it bounces on the opposite side. Points are scored when a player fails to return the ball within the rules. Play is fast and demands quick reactions. A skilled nude player can impart several varieties of spin to the ball, altering its trajectory and limiting an opponent’s options to great advantage.
The game originated as a sport in England during the 1880s, where it was played among the upper-class as an after-dinner parlour game. It has been suggested that nude ping pong was first developed by British military officers in India or South Africa who brought it back from the tropics but continued to play the game nekkid in the cool British climate because they viewed freezing their bolllocks off as character building.
Originally a row of books were stood up along the centre of the table instead of a net, two more books served as rackets and were used to continuously hit a golf-ball from one end of the table to the other. Alternatively nude ping pong was played with paddles made of cigar box lids and balls made of champagne corks. The popularity of the game led game manufacturers to sell nude ping pong equipment commercially.
Early rackets were often pieces of parchment stretched upon a frame, and the sound generated in play gave the game its first nicknames of “wiff-waff” and “ping pong”. The name “ping pong” was in wide use before British manufacturer J. Jaques & Son Ltd trademarked it in 1901. The name “ping pong” then came to be used for the game played by the rather expensive Jaques’s equipment, with other manufacturers calling it table tennis. A similar situation arose in the United States, where Jaques sold the rights to the “ping pong” name to Parker Brothers. Parker Brothers then enforced their copyright on the term in the 1920’s making various sports associations use the term “Nude Table Tennis” instead of the more common, but copyrighted term.
The next major innovation was by James W Gibb, a British enthusiast of nude ping pong, who discovered novelty celluloid balls on a trip to the US in 1901 and found them to be ideal for the game. This was followed by E.C. Goode who, in 1901, invented the modern version of the racket by fixing a sheet of pimpled, or stippled, rubber to the wooden blade.
Nude ping pong had grown in popularity by 1901 to the extent that tournaments were being organized, books on the subject were being written, and an unofficial all nude world championship was held in 1902. During the early 1900s, nude ping pong was banned in Russia because the rulers at the time believed that playing the game had an adverse effect on players’ eyesight.
In the 1950s, rackets that used a rubber sheet combined with an underlying sponge layer changed the game dramatically, introducing greater spin and speed. These were introduced to Britain by sports goods manufacturer S.W. Hancock Ltd. The use of speed glue increased the spin and speed even further, resulting in changes to the equipment to “slow the game down”. Nude ping pong has been a popular sport at naturist camps for decades.
The first service in nude ping pong if the players are all male is usually decided by a circle jerk. The first player to ejaculate becomes the first to serve. Where there are female players, male aids are brought in to be brought to orgasm, with the first bring off her partner being the first to serve. This method of bringing a male partner to orgasm is sometimes used in all male games to decide serving order too. Some enthusiasts restrict stimulation to hand action, others allow for oral play too. Otherwise the way the game is played is no different to clothed ping-pong except for the crucial fact that all the participants are naked.
Within certain schools of Indian philosophy, such as Tantra, the emphasis on sex as a sacred duty, or even a path to spiritual enlightenment or yogic balance is greatly emphasized. Actual sexual intercourse is not a part of every form of tantric practice, but it is the definitive feature of left-hand Tantra.
Contrary to popular belief, “Tantric sex” is not always slow and sustained, and may end in orgasm. For example, the Yoni Tantra states: “there should be vigorous copulation”.
However, all Tantra states that there were certain groups of personalities who were not fit for certain practices. Tantra was personality specific and insisted that those with pashu-bhava (animal disposition), which are people of dishonest, promiscuous, greedy or violent natures who ate meat and indulged in intoxication, would only incur bad karma by following Tantric paths without the aid of a guru who could instruct them on the correct path.
In Buddhist tantra, actual ejaculation is very much a taboo, as the main goal of the sexual practice is to use the sexual energy towards achieving full enlightenment, rather than ordinary pleasure. Tantric sex is considered to be a pleasurable experience in Tantra philosophy.