Chus Martinez On Coitus Reservatus

Coitus reservatus – also known as sexual continence – is commonly thought of as a form of sexual intercourse in which the penetrative partner does not attempt to ejaculate within the receptive partner, but instead attempts to remain at the plateau phase of intercourse for as long as possible avoiding the seminal emission. Another term used for this kind of shagging is the word karezza.

The word karezza is sometimes said to be derived from the Italian word “carezza” meaning “caress”. However, Alan W. Watts believed, in error, that it was a Persian word. The concept of karezza is loosely akin to maithuna in Hindu tantra and sahaja in yoga. Control of ejaculation is also a key aspect of Taoist sexual practices (known as “cai Yin pu Yang” and “cai Yang pu Yin”).

Karezza signifies to express affection in both words and action, and while it fittingly denotes the union that is the outcome of deepest human affection, it is used technically to designate a controlled sexual union. In practice it is more than just self-control, it is mutual control where the penetrative partner helps the receptive partner and vice versa. The technique also prolongs sexual pleasure to the point of achieving mystical ecstasy. In this practice, orgasm is separated from ejaculation, making possible enjoyment of the pleasure of sexual intercourse without experiencing seminal ejaculation, while still enjoying orgasm.

Some groovers also apply the principles of karezza to masturbation, whereby a person attempts to delay orgasm as long as possible to prolong pleasure in a process known as “orgasmic brinkmanship”, “surfing”, or “edging” but this is different from the heterosexual practice of “karezza”. One purpose of karezza is the maintenance, and indeed, intensification of desire and enjoyment of sexual pleasure within the context of relationships. In this practice a woman can and does enjoy a prolonged orgasm while a man demonstrates self-control; similarly, in the context of two male sexual partners, the receptive partner can enjoy the stimulation of his prostate for a longer period of time than he would otherwise.