Orgasmic meditation or OMing is a term coined by Nicole Daedone to signify a mindfulness practice in which the object of meditation is finger to genital contact. OMing is practiced in pairs, with one practitioner stroking the genitals of the other, and both focusing their attention on the sensation with the stated goal of developing connective resonance between them. Although the practitioners can be of either sex, the focus of orgasmic meditation seems to be on the female orgasm through subtle and deliberate stimulation of the clitoris. Both partners, however, can share in the sensation and fulfillment via a kind of “pleasure by proxy.” Proponents state that orgasmic meditation encompasses more than just orgasm and that it encourages greater emotional awareness, connected relationships, and sense of fulfillment. Others describe the sensation as “a heady buzz, mixed with equal parts wooziness and intensity of focus.”
In press accounts, orgasmic meditation has been compared to tantric practices. The idea, similar to Buddhist Tantric sex, is to extend the sensory peak. Daedone has stated in interviews that OMing also borrows from other traditions including yoga, and other forms of meditation, and she describes it as a central element of what she terms the “Slow Sex Movement”. She claims that OMing brings consciousness to sexuality in the same way that sitting meditation brings consciousness to stillness and yoga brings consciousness to movement. Proponents maintain that the practice leads to more intense and profound orgasms, expands one’s capacity to feel pleasure and other sensations, and promotes greater personal awareness and interpersonal connectivity. Others describe more limited effects, such as simply “getting in touch with one’s body.” Some who have participated in or witnessed the practice report feeling a sense of discomfort or inappropriateness. “I tried with great futility to make the connection between an austere Zen monastery filled with silent monks meditating on emptiness, and what I had just seen.”
The practice of orgasmic meditation is done with a partner. One person lies down, unclothed from the waist down, while her partner sits alongside. The one sitting uses his or her index finger to slowly, deliberately stroke the clitoris and genitals of the other. Typically this safe sex practice involves the wearing of gloves. The session lasts for 15 minutes and is timed precisely. Both partners focus their attention on the point of contact or stroke, simply feeling the sensation that is present. If the mind drifts, attention is brought back to the point of contact and immediate sensations. Practitioners of orgasmic meditation maintain that the practice nourishes the limbic system, the part of the brain shared with other mammals and associated with emotion, empathy, and motivation. When the OMing session is over, both partners share their experiences verbally.
OMing requires a partner, and so is distinct from masturbation, for two reasons. First, the voluntary mind must be given a rest, surrendering to the experience rather than seeking to produce the desired sensations. Secondly, the resonance between two partners is essential to the experience of shared sensation. OM is usually practiced separately from sex and often in a location other than the bedroom; as distinct from foreplay, Daedone describes it as a practice “designed to keep a woman on a plateau of sensation.” A visiting UK columnist surmised that “OM is a form of recalibration that prepares the body for better, more intense sex.”
In The Four Hour Body, a New York Times Best Seller described as “a lab report on more than a decade of diet, exercise, and sexual trials that Tim Ferriss carried out on himself,” two chapters are devoted to “The 15 Minute Female Orgasm” in which Ferriss describes his quest to learn to facilitate the experience of orgasm in any woman. After describing his introduction to the practice in a OneTaste coaching session, Ferriss concludes that “this should be required education for every man on the planet.” However, he finds that the position prescribed for orgasmic meditation can cause tiring in the lower back, so he develops his own alternative “elbow-brace position” which he diagrams in his book, along with the anatomy of the clitoris and mechanics of stroking. He ascribes the success of the method to the fact that it is presented as a goalless practice and that it decouples orgasm from sex. Jack Canfield, co-editor for the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, also states that he and his wife had great success with orgasmic meditation.
Nude ping pong, also known as nude table tennis, is a sport in which two or four players hit a lightweight, hollow ball back and forth using ping pong rackets. The game takes place on a hard table divided by a net. Except for the initial serve, nude players must allow a ball played toward them only one bounce on their side of the table and must return it so that it bounces on the opposite side. Points are scored when a player fails to return the ball within the rules. Play is fast and demands quick reactions. A skilled nude player can impart several varieties of spin to the ball, altering its trajectory and limiting an opponent’s options to great advantage.
The game originated as a sport in England during the 1880s, where it was played among the upper-class as an after-dinner parlour game. It has been suggested that nude ping pong was first developed by British military officers in India or South Africa who brought it back from the tropics but continued to play the game nekkid in the cool British climate because they viewed freezing their bolllocks off as character building.
Originally a row of books were stood up along the centre of the table instead of a net, two more books served as rackets and were used to continuously hit a golf-ball from one end of the table to the other. Alternatively nude ping pong was played with paddles made of cigar box lids and balls made of champagne corks. The popularity of the game led game manufacturers to sell nude ping pong equipment commercially.
Early rackets were often pieces of parchment stretched upon a frame, and the sound generated in play gave the game its first nicknames of “wiff-waff” and “ping pong”. The name “ping pong” was in wide use before British manufacturer J. Jaques & Son Ltd trademarked it in 1901. The name “ping pong” then came to be used for the game played by the rather expensive Jaques’s equipment, with other manufacturers calling it table tennis. A similar situation arose in the United States, where Jaques sold the rights to the “ping pong” name to Parker Brothers. Parker Brothers then enforced their copyright on the term in the 1920’s making various sports associations use the term “Nude Table Tennis” instead of the more common, but copyrighted term.
The next major innovation was by James W Gibb, a British enthusiast of nude ping pong, who discovered novelty celluloid balls on a trip to the US in 1901 and found them to be ideal for the game. This was followed by E.C. Goode who, in 1901, invented the modern version of the racket by fixing a sheet of pimpled, or stippled, rubber to the wooden blade.
Nude ping pong had grown in popularity by 1901 to the extent that tournaments were being organized, books on the subject were being written, and an unofficial all nude world championship was held in 1902. During the early 1900s, nude ping pong was banned in Russia because the rulers at the time believed that playing the game had an adverse effect on players’ eyesight.
In the 1950s, rackets that used a rubber sheet combined with an underlying sponge layer changed the game dramatically, introducing greater spin and speed. These were introduced to Britain by sports goods manufacturer S.W. Hancock Ltd. The use of speed glue increased the spin and speed even further, resulting in changes to the equipment to “slow the game down”. Nude ping pong has been a popular sport at naturist camps for decades.
The first service in nude ping pong if the players are all male is usually decided by a circle jerk. The first player to ejaculate becomes the first to serve. Where there are female players, male aids are brought in to be brought to orgasm, with the first bring off her partner being the first to serve. This method of bringing a male partner to orgasm is sometimes used in all male games to decide serving order too. Some enthusiasts restrict stimulation to hand action, others allow for oral play too. Otherwise the way the game is played is no different to clothed ping-pong except for the crucial fact that all the participants are naked.
Group sex is sexual behaviour involving more than two participants. Group sex can occur amongst people of all sexual orientations and genders. While this article discusses group sex among humans, the behaviour also occurs in other animal species such as bighorn sheep and bonobos.
Group sex may take place in public (for instance, at outdoor events or nightclubs); at massage parlours, brothels or soaplands; at sex parties or, in some jurisdictions, at purpose-built locations such as sex clubs or gay bathhouses. In places where non-monogamous sex is taboo or illegal, group sex takes place in private or clandestine locations, including homes, hotel rooms, or private clubs.
In principle, any sexual behaviour performed by more than two people can be referred to as group sex, but various terms are used to describe particular acts or combinations of people. Many swingers argue that non-swingers have conflated the terms because of lack of understanding and that there are distinct differences among the terms with specific meanings as to number, intent, sexual orientation, and familiarity of the persons involved.
Circle jerk – group masturbation among men, usually sitting in somewhat of a circle formation. Gang bang – a number of people performing sex acts on one person, either in turn or at the same time. Dogging – outdoor sex in public places where others may come along to watch or join in. Threesome or three-way – three people all having sexual relations, not necessarily simultaneously. Not to be confused with ménage à trois (literally, “household of three”). Ménage à quatre or four-way – sex between four people. Orgy – group sex or a sex party. Bunga bunga orgy – an orgy in which the participants have sex underwater, such as in a swimming pool or a hot tub. Double penetration when a person is entered or penetrated in the vagina and/or anus by two men at the same time. This usually is when one enters the anus while another enters the vagina, although it does also refer to two simultaneous penetrations in the same orifice. Monogamous Group Sex or Same Room Sex – couples engaging in sexual activity in the same room but in separate pairs, without any swapping of partners or other major sexual activity between couples.
Fantasies of group sex are extremely common among both men and women. In major studies, between 54–88% of people fantasize about watching others have sex, 40–42% fantasize about being watched by others, and between 39–72% fantasize about bondage. Many forms of sexual behaviour were reported by Kinsey’s subjects, but the official Kinsey Reports web site does not mention threesomes or group sex in the summary of Kinsey’s findings.
As with all sexual activity, the relative risks of group sex depend on the specific activities engaged in, although having a large number of sexual partners increases one’s risk of exposure to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
From the mid-1980s there was lobbying against gay bathhouses blaming them for the spread of STDs, in particular HIV, and this forced their closure in some jurisdictions, particularly in the United States. Sociologist Stephen O. Murray, writes that, “there was never any evidence presented that going to bathhouses was a risk-factor for contracting AIDS.” In other countries, fears about the spread of STDs have prompted the closing of bathhouses—with their private rooms—in favour of sex clubs, in which all sexual activity takes place in the open, and can be observed by monitors whose job it is to enforce safer sex practices.
Proponents point out that venues where group sex takes place often provide condoms, dental dams, latex gloves, lubricants and other items for safer sex. Bathhouses in particular are a major source of safer sex information—they provide pamphlets and post safer sex posters prominently (often on the walls of each room as well as in the common areas), provide free condoms and lubricants, and often require patrons to affirm that they will only have safer sex on the premises.
A sex party is a gathering at which sexual activity takes place. Sex parties may be organized to enable people to engage in casual sexual activity or for swinging couples or people interested in group sex to meet, but any gathering where sexual activity is anticipated can be called a sex party. Sex parties, under various names, have been a common focus of moral panics fed by media reports claiming that such parties are prevalent, or growing in prevalence, especially among teenagers.
A swinger party or partner-swapping party is a gathering at which individuals or couples in a committed relationship can engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in various contexts, ranging from a spontaneous sexual activity at an informal social gathering of friends to a regular social gathering in a sex club (or swinger club) or residence.
Swinger parties may involve various group sex activities. Partners can engage in penetrative sex, known as “full swap,” or choose to “soft swap” in which they engage only in non-penetrative sex. New swinging couples often choose a soft swap before they are comfortable with a full swap, although many couples stay soft swap for personal reasons. An alternative definition of soft swinging is when a couple engages in sexual activities with only each other while other couples perform sex acts in the immediate vicinity.
Key parties are a form of swinging parties, in which male partners place their car and house keys into a common bowl or bag on arriving. At the end of the evening the female partners would randomly select keys from the bowl and leave with that key’s owner. This dated practice from the 1970s is now criticized as being androcentric where it is presumed that the partners involved are a married heterosexual couple and that it is the male who is in control of the sexual activities.
A rainbow party is an urban legend spread from the early 2000s. At these events, allegedly increasingly popular among adolescents, females wearing various shades of lipstick take turns fellating males in sequence, leaving multiple colours on their penises. Rainbow parties were covered on The Oprah Winfrey Show in 2003, and became the subject of a juvenile novel called Rainbow Party. On May 27, 2010 the television program The Doctors discussed the topic with dozens of teens, parents, and professionals. However, sex researchers and adolescent health care professionals have found no evidence for the existence of rainbow parties, and as such attribute the spread of the stories to a moral panic.
Sensational media reports about the prevalence of sex parties, especially among young people, appear with some regularity. In the early 1950s, for example, it was alleged that teenage girls, mainly throughout the Southern and Midwestern United States were forming “non-virgin clubs,” in which they organized and held sex orgies with reports of couples being paired off by drawing numbers from a hat. These claims were investigated and debunked.
Several stories of this type arose in the US in 2003. In New York, rumours began that teens had been taking days off from school to attend “hooky parties” while their parents were at work. One school even suspended a group of girls for allegedly skipping school to attend such a party. They were refused the right to return to school until each had submitted to a medical examination for sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy and school officials were allowed to examine the results. The New York Civil Liberties Union filed a federal lawsuit against the school on behalf of the girls and won a settlement that included monetary damages and a change in the school district’s policy. Similar stories concerning teenagers using gel bracelets as coupons or signals for sex also arose at the time, with similar lack of corroborating evidence.
Compersion is a state of empathetic happiness and joy experienced when an individual’s current or former romantic partner experiences happiness and joy through an outside source, including, but not limited to, another romantic interest. This can be experienced as any form of erotic or emotional empathy, depending on the person experiencing the emotion.
The concept is now widespread within the polyamorous community, and was originally coined by the now defunct Kerista Commune in San Francisco. The related adjective is compersive.
It is common for people within the polyamorous community to state that jealousy comes with the territory of open romantic relationships. Compersion has often been referred to as “the opposite of jealousy” and some advocates state that through time and experience, it becomes an efficient method for combating jealousy.
In romantic relationships, jealousy refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and/or anxiety over an anticipated loss of a partner or of that partner’s attention, affection, or time. Because polyamorous relationships often exist within cultural frameworks of monogamy, where jealousy is understood as a natural reaction to perceived competition for a partner’s attention, affection, or time, treatments of jealousy in polyamorous literature are quite extensive.
In her book Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, Dr Deborah M. Anapol describes five different types of jealousy – possessive, exclusion, competition, ego, and fear – before discussing compersion. The books The Ethical Slut and Opening Up also devote entire chapters to discussions of jealousy.
Investigative reporter and sex educator Eric Francis wrote on his Planet Waves website that an individual could look for their own compersion within jealousy itself: “Right inside the jealous episode is a fiery core of erotic passion. It may surprise you how good it feels, and if you get there, you can be sure you’re stepping right into compersion.”
Monty Cantsin defines compersion as “the positive feelings one gets when a lover is enjoying another relationship. Sometimes called the opposite or flip side of jealousy.” They comment that compersion can coexist with jealous feelings.
Luther Blissett defines compersion to be “the feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves, especially taking joy in the knowledge that your beloveds are expressing their love for one another.”
Karen Eliot defines compersion as “A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. … Compersion does not specifically refer to joy regarding the sexual activity of one’s partner, but refers instead to joy at the relationship with another romantic and/or sexual partner. It’s analogous to the joy parents feel when their children get married, or to the happiness felt between best friends when they find a partner.”
From Opening Up, Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio writes that compersion is, in part, “the ability to turn jealousy’s negative feelings into acceptance of, and vicarious enjoyment for, a lover’s joy.”
The adjective frubbly and the noun frubbles are sometimes used, in the poly community in the United Kingdom and the United States, to describe the feeling of compersion. These terms are more suited to cheerful, light-hearted conversation, and they are more grammatically versatile, for example: “I’m feeling all frubbly” and “Their relationship fills me with frubbles”. Shadenfreude is generally considered to be the antonym of compersion.
Cunnilingus is an oral sex act performed on a female. It involves the use by a sex partner of the mouth, lips and tongue to stimulate the female’s clitoris, vulva, or vagina. A female may receive cunnilingus as part of foreplay before sexual intercourse, or as intercourse. As in all human sexual behaviour, both the techniques used in cunnilingus and an individual’s response to them are varied.
The clitoris is the most sexually sensitive erogenous zone for most women, but may be too sensitive to comfortably stimulate at times, especially in early stages of arousal. Author Shere Hite notes in The Hite Report that most women achieve orgasm easily from clitoral stimulation as part of cunnilingus or some other form of direct clitoral stimulation. Some sex manuals recommend beginning with a gentler, less focused stimulation of the labia and the whole genital area. The tip, blade, or underside of the tongue may be used, as can the nose, chin, teeth and lips. Movements can be slow or fast, regular or erratic, firm or soft, according to the participants’ preferences. The tongue can be inserted into the vagina, either stiffened or moving. The performing partner may also hum to produce vibration.
Cunnilingus may be accompanied by the insertion of finger(s) or a sex toy into the vagina, which allows for the simultaneous stimulation of the g-spot, and/or into the anus.
There are several positions for cunnilingus:
Missionary – the female lies on her back, with her legs spread, pulled up to her chest, on her partner or raised.
Doggy style – the female crouches on all fours, while her partner performs oral sex from behind.
Standing – the female stands facing her partner, who is either sitting or on the knees. However, in this position the clitoris is more difficult to reach and stimulate, and the female may have difficulty maintaining her balance when she is reaching orgasm because her legs quiver and shake.
Sitting – the female sits on a chair or uses some other support.
Mutual stimulation –the 69 position where both partners perform oral sex on each other at the same time.
Face-sitting – the female sits on or above the partner’s face. In this position the female has more control over her body movements and can guide her partner or auto-stimulate against the partner’s face.
There are numerous slang terms for cunnilingus, including “DATY” (for “dining at the Y”), “drinking from the furry cup”, “carpet munching”, and “muff-diving”. It is also commonly called “eating someone out”, “eating pussy” or “licking someone out”. Several common slang terms used are “giving lip”, “lip service”, or “tipping the velvet”. Older erotic literature refers to it as “gamahuching”, with some variation in the spelling.
A person who performs cunnilingus may be referred to as a “cunnilinguist”, and the phrase “cunning linguist” is also often used as a pun, implying oral skill of a different sort.
Nudity in sport (playing sports without any clothing) is uncommon in modern society but it was a norm in Ancient Greece, as well as many cultures in the tropics till today. Although the tradition is now mostly limited to naturist events, we still use words such as gym, gymnasium and gymnastics, which all come from the common Greek adjective γυμνός (gymnos) meaning “naked”, by way of the related verb γυμνάζω (gymnazo), whose meaning is “to train naked”.
Many indigenous peoples in Africa and South America train and perform sport competitions naked Nuba people in South Sudan and xingu tribe in the Amazon region in Brazil, for example, wrestle naked, whereas Dinka, Surma and Mursi in South Sudan and Ethiopia, arrange stick fights. Indian monks Digambara practice yoga naked (or sky-clad, as they prefer to call it). With the ever increasing influences of Western and Muslim cultures, these traditions may soon vanish too.
It is not uncommon for private clubs with male-only or female-only facilities to allow (for example) nude swimming. Some argue that in more private environments (whether at home or in, say a single-gender bathhouse), the less clothing one has on when exercising or doing any activity the better.
Nudist clubs traditionally offer members and guests of both sexes the opportunity to swim nude. Many own or lease facilities that allow other sports to be played, including volleyball, tennis, badminton, bowling and the like. Typically these sports are played at a recreational level of intensity, and need not be particularly competitive.
Although already in the book The Zen of Running by Fred Rohé (1974) it was recommended to run barefoot and “as undressed as possible” to get “well bathed by sun and air” nude running has never gained wide acceptance,
One of the most popular events in naked sport is the international Alps Adria Meeting. This annual contest will took place for the 35th time in the camping ground Kažela close to Medulin/Croatia (June, 7th to June, 10th 2007). About 150 participants participated.
The top event of naturist sport in Europe (and perhaps worldwide) is the famous International Naturist Sports Week in Hungarian naturist camping and recreational centre of Sziksósfürdő near Szeged. Since 1989, the 7-day-event takes place every summer during the last week of July. Almost 40 different forms of sport are on the agenda of this event, with almost 400 participants from all over Europe.
Blacks Beach in San Diego California hosts a yearly nude surf event that includes body boarding, body surfing and surfing. This event is open to everybody and is hosted by the blacks beach bares and the naturist society.
The “Nude Blacks” Rugby team of New Zealand competes in the nude too.
During the yearly Roskilde Festival (Denmark), a race for nude runners has been a popular event since the year 2002. The World Naked Bike Ride is an international clothing-optional bike ride in which participants plan, meet and ride together en masse on human-powered transport (the vast majority on bicycles, and fewer on skateboards, roller blades, roller skates) to “protest oil dependency and celebrate the power and individuality of our bodies”.
On June 21, 2008, Sunnyrest Resort in Palmerton, Pennsylvania, hosted the first clothing-optional Mountain Bike Duathlon. Seventy athletes participated and competed during this professionally timed event. Most chose to race completely nude, save the proper footwear.
25 March is Ladyboy Day and the first day of the New Year in the communudist calendar. This is because on that day Karl Marx appeared to Chus Martinez and told her that the working class must transform itself into a transsexual collective phantom all using her name in order to carry out a world-wide proletarian revolution with unlicensed pleasure as it’s only aim.
Legend also has it that Chus Martinez gained her g-string tripping skills from a visit to a library at midnight, where she laid an open copy of Das Kapital on a table and then proceeded to perform a burlesque routine. At exactly one second past midnight on 25 March a strange bearded figure emerged offering to make her the greatest ladyboy stripper of all time in return for her pledge to keep the Marxist programme invariant and free from revision.
Above Chus Martinez doing a burlesque routine.
Chus Martinez live art documentation “Nude For Communism”. Chus Martinez asked communudist comrades to pose nude for her to create events and series of photographs that rallied people to a praxis of bollock naked revolutionary disalienation.
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Michael Roth | September 4, 2012 at 3:39 am As a new Communudist, I find having a lap dog essential for awkward social interactions.
chusmartinezproject | September 4, 2012 at 5:07 pm Dogs are generally more reliable than cats who communudists regret putting on their laps if they end up with genital scratches!
Michael Roth | September 5, 2012 at 4:52 am Genital scratches are better than genital warts!
chusmartinezproject | September 5, 2012 at 10:35 am They generally heal quicker and aren’t contagious – but if they are at all deep they are more painful when inflicted!
Unlike apologists for capitalist social relations, communudists have no desire to exalt the superiority of ‘modern man’ over his primitive forebears. On the contrary, communudists intuitively understand the ‘grandeur’ of primitive man and see in the society of the future a restoration, albeit on a higher level, of the primitive communism of the classless societies of the past.
Communudists know that anyone who wishes to be consistent in their opposition to capitalism must necessarily re-appropriate the types of consciousness that emerged from primitive communities, as well as their social form. Since the primitive community is a true community, a society without exploitation, in which production is still geared towards the satisfaction of human needs, it follows that a large part of the material resources of these societies were directed not simply towards the immediate struggle for existence but rather into activities that were enjoyed simply for their own sake. Work was suspended and life became play. The remorseless necessity to direct activity towards some future goal was replaced by pursuits without pre-determined ends. The tyranny of time was suspended and instead everybody found themselves transported into an ecstatic present.
The development of civilisation has involved a gradual but accelerating suppression of the shamanic art of ecstasy. Thus the degree to which this art has been lost, crushed, or driven underground by the advance of civilisation, and above all by capitalist civilisation, is a yardstick by which we measure the alienation of (wo)man. Therefore the shaman’s capacity to ‘‘recapture’ the ‘language of the animals’, to allow the unconscious to speak through him, is anything but a regression to a sub-human level. It is rather one aspect of a ‘greater synthesis’ which combines the untrammelled power of animals – who are not subject to repression and can thus function to the maximum of their potential – with the creative intelligence that is unique to the human species. Shamanism is an ascent to a state where (wo)man enjoys a complete and unalienated union of instinct and conscious thought. It is an art of disalienation in which we rediscover our species-being, a state of social ‘grace’ in which we become complete.
Above – Chus Martinez demonstrates the naked power of spiritual communism!
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Michael Roth | September 7, 2012 at 4:56 am The wounded Communudist is an archetype for a shamanizing journey. This process is important to the young Communudist. S/he takes on a sickness from the Capitalist system that pushes her or him to the brink of death. This happens for two reasons:
1. The Communudist crosses over to the under world. This happens so he or she can venture to its depths to bring back vital information for the sick infected with the Capitalist disease, and for the good of the community.
2. The Communudist must become sick to understand sickness. When the Communudist overcomes her or his own sickness s/he will hold the cure to heal all that suffer. This is the uncanny mark of the wounded Communudist.
chusmartinezproject | September 7, 2012 at 3:16 pm |Only as transsexual communudist shamans can we collectively climb the world tree and reclaim the ecstasy that is the essence of our species being!