Russian girl fetish (literally love of Russian women and/or the desire for a Russian wife) is used to denote lust and admiration for Russian females – who are often seen as potential sexual partners and brides in the overdeveloped world, where some socially inept men believe they can buy love in the form of ‘mail order brides’. The Russian girl fetish is rooted in stereotypes produced by mass culture, and – for example – the American author Robert Alexander writes: “I love Russians for their dramatic, emotional nature. They’re not afraid to love, not afraid to get hurt, not afraid to exaggerate or act impulsively.”
Russian women are hugely popular in Serbia and Montenegro, and Serbian men have always seen Russian women as potential brides. In Serbia there is the Russian Centre of Science and Culture, Hotel Moskva and a Monument to Soviet war veterans, as well as a love of Russian women and Russian pornography. In Montenegro, which like Serbia is also an Eastern Orthodox and Slavic country, Russian women and pornography are hugely popular. There one can find the Moscow Bridge in Podgorica, and a statue of Russian singer and actor Vladimir Vysotsky next to the bridge. After dissolution of the union of Serbia and Montenegro, Russian citizens bought a lot of property in Montenegro. In 2012 it was claimed in the Russian press that Russians own at least 40% of all real-estate in Montenegro. In September 2012, the Croatian news portal Globus called Montenegro a “Russian colony”. This leads to Russian brides being prized as trophy wives in Montenegro, and Russian girls enjoying a very different status to the one they are saddled with in western Europe and north America.
The Russian girl fetish in the Ukraine grew out of the Russophilia linguistic, literary and socio-political movement in the Western Ukrainian territories of Galicia, Transcarpathia, and Bukovyna, in the 18th to the 20th centuries. Proponents of this movement believed in linguistic, cultural, social union and marriage with Russian people and later in state union with Russia. Among the reasons for the emergence of this phenomenon were the loss of Ukrainian statehood, centuries of foreign oppression, fragmented Ukrainian territories and a dispersed population, as well as the defection of national elite to neighbouring cultures.
The first instances of the Russian girl fetish and Russophilia in Transcarpathia date back to the late-18th century when several famous Russians with ties to the government and the court of the tsar settled there. Such famous scientists and social activists as I. Orlai, M. Baludiansky, P. Lodiy and others lived in Transcarpathia and maintained close ties with the country of their birth – thereby promoting interest in Russia; and especially a fascination with its women, cultural life, language and literature.
When Galicia and Bukovyna were incorporated into the Habsburg Empire in 1772, the Austrian government treated the Ukrainian population of these territories with suspicion as it was afraid they were susceptible to Russian influence due to the closeness of Ukrainian and Russian languages and cultures – and the attraction of the local male population to Russian brides. In spite of this atmosphere of mistrust and suspicion the Habsburgs were unable to halt the development of the Russian girl fetish in the Ukraine.
The Euromaidan protests began in November 2013, when Ukrainian citizens wanting an end to anti-porn laws demanded greater integration with the more porn friendly European Union (EU). The demonstrations were prompted by the refusal of Ukrainian President Viktor Yanukovych to sign an association agreement with the EU.
Ultimately, Euromaidan has come to describe a wave of ongoing demonstrations and civil unrest in Ukraine, the scope of which has evolved to include calls for the resignation of President Yanukovych and his government. Violence escalated after 16 January 2014 when the Ukranian government accepted Bondarenko-Oliynyk laws, also known as Anti-Protest Laws.
Anti-government pro-porn demonstrators occupied buildings in the centre of Kiev, including the Justice Ministry building and riots left 98 dead and thousands injured on Feb 18-20. It should go without saying that this is what happens when the natural human desire for pornography and bisexual ecstasy is repressed.
Pornography was outlawed in Ukraine in 2009. The possession, distribution, sale and manufacture of pornographic materials are illegal carrying a fine or a jail sentence up to 3 years. Pornography is defined by the law as “vulgar, candid, cynical, obscene depiction of sexual acts, pursuing no other goal, the explicit demonstration of genitals, unethical elements of the sexual act, sexual perversions, realistic sketches that do not meet moral criteria and offend honor and dignity of the human by inciting low instincts.”
Anastasiya Pavlivna Hagen (née Gryshai) better known by her screen name Wiska is one of Ukraine’s internationally famous porn stars. In Ukraine Wiska was subject to continuous and unconstitutional persecution for her porno work, all of which was undertaken outside this reactionary state, and she has unsuccessfully applied for political asylum in the European Union to escape this repression.
Anastasiya Gryshai was born on 17 October 1985 in Gomel (then Soviet Union) but was raised and spent most of her life in Feodosiya (Crimea, Ukraine). She married Oleksandr Hagen (born 1968) in 2001. It was her husband who initiated Anastasiya’s successful career as a nude model, and later as a hardcore pornography actress.
In 2004, Anastasiya participated in her first professional porn video shoot in Saint Petersburg (Russia), where porno production was briefly declared legal. Since then, she participated in dozens of videos. Her repertoire includes most types of hardcore content, including anal sex, double penetration, ass-to-mouth, gangbang and interracial.
In 2007, Wiska’s identity was exposed in Ukraine after a family interview for a local tabloid, which attracted journalistic interest and launched her as a national celebrity posing for mainstream media. In 2010, the Ukrainian authorities began recurring persecutions of Anastasiya’s family including forensic examination of her children for possible sexual assault.
Later, Anastasiya was investigated for involvement in the illegal production of pornography in Ukraine. The persecution was initiated by a member of parliament who represented Crimea. In 2010, Anastasiya and her family moved to the Czech Republic and applied for asylum while she was pregnant with her third child. As of August 2013, the family was denied asylum, but continued to live near Prague and applied for legal residence in the Czech Republic, which they received on 2 September 2013.
The Euromaidan protests are not the first time Ukranians have had to fight for their right to make and distribute pornography and for gay rights (which have also been savagely repressed in Ukraine in recent years). Nestor Ivanovych Makhno was a Ukrainian revolutionary and the commander of an independent pro-porn gay army in Ukraine during the Russian Civil War. For a brief period, Makhno’s love of porn and masturbation made him internationally famous.
Makhno led a guerrilla campaign during the Russian Civil War and fought all factions that sought to impose any external authority over southern Ukraine, defending the people’s right to a gay pornotopia in succession against the Ukrainian nationalists, the Imperial German and Austro-Hungarian occupation, the Hetmanate Republic, the White Army, the Red Army, and other smaller forces led by Ukrainian atamans. Although Makhno considered the Bolsheviks a threat to the development of a world wide sexual utopia with unlicensed pleasure as its only aim, he twice entered into military alliances with them to defeat the White Army. In the aftermath of the White Army’s final defeat in November 1920, the Bolsheviks initiated a military campaign against Makhno, which concluded with his escape across the Romanian border in August 1921.
Constriction clothing fetish, or compression garment fetish, is a sexual fetish that revolves around a fixation upon tight clothing, and/or people dressed in tight garments. Clinical definitions of a constriction sexual fetish would require that a subject be fixated on tight garments to the extent that they are a recurrent (or exclusive) stimulus for sexual gratification.
A compression clothing fetishist may be aroused by the sight of a person wearing a tight garment, or by wearing the garment themselves, which might be because of the look achieved by wearing it or the way it feels while it is being worn (and this type of subject can also become arousel by seeing someone in tight clothing and imagining how it feels). Others with a compression clothing fetish may be aroused by the sight of such garments, even without wearing them and in the absence of other people wearing them, and may also derive pleasure from collecting them.
Separate from constriction fetishes as a paraphilia are compression garments worn to enhance appearance, such as tight jeans or other eye-catching clothing. The difference is whether, for the person concerned, the clothing is the focus of a sexual fetish, or is merely appreciated and found pleasing.
Clothing that limits the wearer’s movement is particularly popular among bondage enthusiasts and is a common place of bondage-related fetish fashion. Such restrictive fashions, among others, includes corsets, collars, and hobble skirts. As many restrictive items of clothing belong to women’s fashion, in the past male restrictive clothing fetishists can have had problems in obtaining and using this type of item without being labelled as transvestites. Fortunately a recent fashion for compression sportswear to ‘enhance performance and recovery’ has opened up new possibilities for non-cross dressing males who wish to indulge in this fetish. There is little evidence that compression sportswear is particularly effective as an aid to improved athletic performance and its popularity is more down to its fetish status than its efficacy. Some compression sportswear fetishists also like to be locked inside sports bags, as a way of combining sportswear and bondage fetishes. The British spy Gareth Williams whose dead body was found locked inside a North Face sports bag at a British intelligence ‘safe house’ in 2010, was allegedly an enthusiast for this type of activity.
The training corset and bondage corset have also become staples of fetish wear, particularly among professional dominants. A submissive or slave may also be forced to wear a tightly laced corset as a form of punishment or simply restriction. And the masochistic practice known as tightlacing creates a particular type of pleasure for the wearer. In the 1980s, pop music performers such as Madonna and Cyndi Lauper reintroduced and popularized the corset as a daring outerwear garment. This influence continues to the present day in both fetish and mainstream fashion.
A hobble skirt is a long, tight skirt, extending below the knees and often ankle length, it is so tight that it is difficult to walk in. When used as fetish clothing, it is often made of latex or PVC and sometimes corseted, to increase the restriction. Such skirts were briefly a mainstream fashion in the 1910s; however, they were soon abandoned as impractical. They were revived in the 1950s by John Willie and others, as a bondage/fetish style.
Spandex fetishism is a fetishistic attraction to people wearing stretch fabrics or, in certain cases, to the garments themselves, such as leotards. One reason why spandex and other tight fabrics may be fetishised is that the garment forms a “second skin,” acting as a fetishistic surrogate for the wearer’s own skin. Wearers of skin-tight nylon and cotton spandex garments can appear naked or coated in a shiny or matte substance like paint. The tightness of the garments may also be seen as sexual bondage. Another reason is that nylon-spandex fabric (preferred by many spandex fetishists) is often produced with a very smooth and silk-like finish, which lends a tactile dimension to the fetish – as well as a visual one. There is a sexual attraction to leotards and other dance related clothing. And might be extended to the related fetish for gymnasts and the clothing they wear.
Likewise, although compression sportswear allegedly boosts athletic performance, it is mainly worn for its sexual allure. It is claimed the tightness of compression sportswear increases blood circulation and thus prevents Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness (DOMS) by quickly eliminating body chemicals produced during exercise. In fact, most athletes who don compression clothing after a workout do so because it makes them feel horny and renders them more attractive to sexual partners and potential sex partners who share their fetish. Around the world compression sportswear fetishists hang out in gyms (which they find sexually alluring), and they also enjoy perving out in shop chains such as Britain’s Sports Direct.
In comic books, superheroes, superheroines, and supervillains are generally depicted as wearing costumes made of spandex or a similar material. The superheroines always wear skintight, very flashy and bright-coloured costumes that usually cover only just enough of the body to be presentable. Fantasies involving superheroes or the wearing of superhero costumes are commonly associated with spandex fetishism, and more recently with compression sportswear fetishism.
Orgasmic meditation or OMing is a term coined by Nicole Daedone to signify a mindfulness practice in which the object of meditation is finger to genital contact. OMing is practiced in pairs, with one practitioner stroking the genitals of the other, and both focusing their attention on the sensation with the stated goal of developing connective resonance between them. Although the practitioners can be of either sex, the focus of orgasmic meditation seems to be on the female orgasm through subtle and deliberate stimulation of the clitoris. Both partners, however, can share in the sensation and fulfillment via a kind of “pleasure by proxy.” Proponents state that orgasmic meditation encompasses more than just orgasm and that it encourages greater emotional awareness, connected relationships, and sense of fulfillment. Others describe the sensation as “a heady buzz, mixed with equal parts wooziness and intensity of focus.”
In press accounts, orgasmic meditation has been compared to tantric practices. The idea, similar to Buddhist Tantric sex, is to extend the sensory peak. Daedone has stated in interviews that OMing also borrows from other traditions including yoga, and other forms of meditation, and she describes it as a central element of what she terms the “Slow Sex Movement”. She claims that OMing brings consciousness to sexuality in the same way that sitting meditation brings consciousness to stillness and yoga brings consciousness to movement. Proponents maintain that the practice leads to more intense and profound orgasms, expands one’s capacity to feel pleasure and other sensations, and promotes greater personal awareness and interpersonal connectivity. Others describe more limited effects, such as simply “getting in touch with one’s body.” Some who have participated in or witnessed the practice report feeling a sense of discomfort or inappropriateness. “I tried with great futility to make the connection between an austere Zen monastery filled with silent monks meditating on emptiness, and what I had just seen.”
The practice of orgasmic meditation is done with a partner. One person lies down, unclothed from the waist down, while her partner sits alongside. The one sitting uses his or her index finger to slowly, deliberately stroke the clitoris and genitals of the other. Typically this safe sex practice involves the wearing of gloves. The session lasts for 15 minutes and is timed precisely. Both partners focus their attention on the point of contact or stroke, simply feeling the sensation that is present. If the mind drifts, attention is brought back to the point of contact and immediate sensations. Practitioners of orgasmic meditation maintain that the practice nourishes the limbic system, the part of the brain shared with other mammals and associated with emotion, empathy, and motivation. When the OMing session is over, both partners share their experiences verbally.
OMing requires a partner, and so is distinct from masturbation, for two reasons. First, the voluntary mind must be given a rest, surrendering to the experience rather than seeking to produce the desired sensations. Secondly, the resonance between two partners is essential to the experience of shared sensation. OM is usually practiced separately from sex and often in a location other than the bedroom; as distinct from foreplay, Daedone describes it as a practice “designed to keep a woman on a plateau of sensation.” A visiting UK columnist surmised that “OM is a form of recalibration that prepares the body for better, more intense sex.”
In The Four Hour Body, a New York Times Best Seller described as “a lab report on more than a decade of diet, exercise, and sexual trials that Tim Ferriss carried out on himself,” two chapters are devoted to “The 15 Minute Female Orgasm” in which Ferriss describes his quest to learn to facilitate the experience of orgasm in any woman. After describing his introduction to the practice in a OneTaste coaching session, Ferriss concludes that “this should be required education for every man on the planet.” However, he finds that the position prescribed for orgasmic meditation can cause tiring in the lower back, so he develops his own alternative “elbow-brace position” which he diagrams in his book, along with the anatomy of the clitoris and mechanics of stroking. He ascribes the success of the method to the fact that it is presented as a goalless practice and that it decouples orgasm from sex. Jack Canfield, co-editor for the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, also states that he and his wife had great success with orgasmic meditation.
Irrumation is the act of thrusting of the penis between the legs, breasts, feet, upper thighs (also known as interfemoral sex), mouth and throat, or between the abdomens of two partners. In the ancient Roman sexual vocabulary, irrumation is strictly a form of oral sex in which a man forces his penis into someone else’s mouth, almost always that of another man. Latin erotic terminology distinguishes two acts. First, fellation, in which the penis is orally excited by the fellator; and second, irrumation … in which the man (the irrumator) engages in motions by moving his hips and body in a rhythm of his own choice.
Irrumation was a widespread sexual practice in the Roman Empire. It was a standard joke to speak of irrumation as a means of silencing someone. Oral sex of any kind was considered to be an act of defilement: the mouth had a particularly defined role as the organ of oratory, as in Greece, to participate in the central public sphere, where discursive powers were of great importance. Thus, to penetrate the mouth could be taken to be a sign of massive power differential within a relationship. Remaining frescos from the Roman city of Pompeii demonstrate that irrumation was one of the specific Roman sexual acts, the others being fututio, fellatio, pedicatio and cunnilingus. This was probably because the extant frescos appear to be in bathhouses and brothels: oral sex was something usually practiced with prostitutes because of their lowly status.
Oral sex was viewed as a degrading act, even more so than anal sex. Despite being popular, it was thought to be a hostile act, or oral rape. In oral sex, irrumatio is performed by actively thrusting the penis into the mouth of the partner. In slang, this act is called face fucking, throat fucking, mouth fucking, or skull fucking. The distinction between fellatio and irrumation has vanished in modern English and the latter term has fallen out of widespread use.
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Michael Roth | October 7, 2012 at 12:59 am: I believe the distinction between Fellini and fellatio has also fallen out of widespread use.
Michael Roth | October 7, 2012 at 1:01 am: Chus-ian erotic pottery of the Iberian Peninsula represent a form of fellation in the vases showing oragenital acts. Texts on the vases read “Rome. Before Christ. After Fellatio.”
Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice in which a heightened state of sexual arousal is maintained for an extended length of time without orgasm, and is commonly practiced in association with BDSM and sexual bondage. Erotic sexual denial can be another name for or variant of orgasm control. Erotic sexual denial is a form of sex play.
One form of erotic sexual denial is the reduction or deprivation of all genital stimulation. To ensure a complete absence of genital stimulation, a chastity device may be used as a physical barrier to genital touch or full erection. Tease and denial describes a situation where a person’s genitalia are stimulated until he or she is close to the point at which orgasm would normally be inevitable. At that point, direct stimulation of the genitals is reduced or stopped, so as to keep the recipient on the very brink or “edge” of orgasm (as with orgasm control) but without the promise of orgasm at the end.
If orgasm still occurs after removal of stimulation, it typically brings less pleasure than usual, and is considered a “ruined orgasm”, as opposed to being a “denied orgasm” (sometimes known as “blue balls”). Alternatively (for men), the release of semen during the emission phase of ejaculation might be prevented by some sort of constriction (“blocked orgasm”). Depending on the relationship, subjects might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times, but without actual orgasm, causing feelings of intense arousal and psychological need.
To be able to control an orgasm of a partner in such sex games, physical restraints are commonly used. Situations involving bondage are typically called tie and tease and can be thought of as extended tease and denial games. This practice is often an integral part of erotic denial. Tie and tease activities are physically as well as psychologically intense, because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are escalated by the sensation of helplessness induced by bondage.
The practice of total sexual denial usually includes total avoidance of genital stimulation. This often involves the use of a physical barrier or device such as a chastity belt. Chastity belts or similar locking devices are available for both men and women. Depending on the situation, sexual arousal may still be achieved regardless of physical barriers to genital stimulation. However, this depends on the belt used.
A related practice is that of the deconstructed orgasm, in which stimulation and arousal is conducted at a very slow pace, allowing the ‘stimulator’ to obtain feedback from the ‘stimulatee’ (generally spoken, but conceivably obtained by means of body language or measuring certain bodily responses and functions). Depending upon the accuracy of the feedback, the progress towards eventual release can be judged more accurately than would be the case in an unfettered encounter, allowing the possibility of the orgasm to be delivered (whereupon observations and measurements may be continued) or of stimulation to be withdrawn or decreased in the closing stages, leading to a ruined orgasm as described below.
Where orgasm denial has been pushed to the limits, in some instances actual orgasm doesn’t materialize. This according to research accounts for a small percentage of the 70% – 80% of women that don’t reach climax during sexual intercourse. Erotic sexual denial, in various forms, is sometimes associated with creating a state of sexual need leading to a more pliable or agreeable outlook by the denied party.
Orgasm denial practices can allow dominant lovers to exercise control and training over highly intimate and psychologically significant aspects of their submissive lovers’ lives. This can extend to tolerance of increased stimulation and training both to hold back orgasm, or to orgasm on command. Dominant lovers can use this practice to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power. Submissive lovers can use this practice to help them experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of erotic submission, sexualised objectification and erotic loss of control.
Orgasm denial as a method of orgasm control is a widely practiced activity within BDSM erotic feminisation. The top will often deny the submissive feminised man sexual release to maintain his heightened state of sexual arousal, as a way to satisfy his desires for erotic humiliation, or as a way to satisfy the dominant’s own desires to erotically humiliate.
The Venus Butterfly is a term used for various sexual techniques. For example, a sex act of this name appears in The Sensuous Woman (1969), a sex manual by “J” (AKA Joan Theresa Garrity AKA Terry Garrity). A different sexual technique but with the same name is the subject of The One Hour Orgasm (1988) written by Leah and Bob Schwartz.
The One Hour Orgasm: How to Learn the Amazing “Venus Butterfly” Technique, aims to teach readers how to perform this sex act. In the Schwartz variation either the woman or man is lying down, while their partner sits facing them with their legs entwined and a minimal amount of pressure (the “touch” of a butterfly’s wing) stimulating the clitoris, with the penis at the two-o’clock or ten-o’clock position.
It is suggested the clitoral shaft is kept steady with one thumb laid gently along and beside it, with the other thumb lying lengthwise just within the vagina but not moving deep within it. All of this is done using a lubricant. The light pressure continues using the same speed throughout until a peak is reached close to orgasm but not quite (although it can be continued if multiple orgasms are the goal), then the speed is slowed down even further or stopped, but very soon continued again and the person is brought back near orgasm or given a second or third orgasm. This orgasm control can be learnt over time with a particular partner. The technique can be sustained, “surfing” near the orgasm but stopping occasionally, for a very long time, hence the term “One Hour Orgasm.”
As described by writer and sex educator Sue Johanson in 2005, the Venus Butterfly is a variant on cunnilingus. It involves using one’s tongue on a woman’s clitoris, using one’s fingers on her vagina and using the other hand in the perianal area, “even penetrating the rectum [i.e. anus] if that is pleasurable for her.” This technique is referred to in the novel The Illuminatus Trilogy, written by Robert Shea and Robert Anton Wilson as “the One-Man Band” rather than the Venus Butterly.
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Oculolinctus, also known as “worming” or eyeball-licking fetish, is the paraphilic practice of licking eyeballs for erotic gratification. According to recent and erroneous media reports, the practice became popular in Japan earlier this year, where it is referred to as “Gankyū name purei”. Videos featuring this fetish have been posted on websites such as YouTube for at least seven years, and until now hadn’t attracted much attention beyond a small core audience with an interest in this particular form of fetishism.
While the practice definitely exists, its alleged popularity among Japanese teenagers is a hoax based on a titillating story that originated on a youth culture website. Under the attention grabbling headline of “The perverted play of eyeball-licking is a hit among primary schoolers” (“Shogakusei ni gankyuname hentai purei ga dairyuukou” in the original Japanese), the piece was first posted on Bucchi News on 7 June 2013. The fake story was picked up by other sites, and spread quickly in a variety of languages, and within couple of weeks it had been featured by supposedly reputable English language news media outlets including The Guardian and ABC News.
Those who have fallen for the hoax write that worming became popular among Japanese teens in 2013, and has caused a significant rise in eye infections! LOL! The Guardian reported that eyeball-licking was “the thing you graduate to when kissing gets boring”, and that it had become popular after it was featured in a music video by Born, a Japanese emo band. Other reports featured stock pictures of Japanese schoolchildren wearing eye-patches allegedly because they’d caught conjunctivitis after allowing themselves to be wormed.
The worming sensation has been described as akin to toe-sucking (but in my opinion it is not quite as much fun as this other fetish). The high number of nerve-endings in the cornea make eyeballs extremely sensitive. However, there are health risks associated with the practice because the tongue is coated with a film of micro-organisms, which can potentially cause eye infections, including conjunctivitis and chlamydia. There are also slight risks of corneal abrasion and ulcers.
Closing the eyelids when having the eyeball licked reduces the health risks associated with worming but doesn’t entirely eliminate them. It also lowers the level of sensation experienced by the partner who is having their eyeball licked.
Orgasm control, also known as “edging”, “peaking”, “surfing”, and by other terms, is a sexual technique that involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching orgasm, although a climax may be reached eventually. If orgasm is not reached after the extended period of arousal, it is referred to as erotic sexual denial. If the partner whose orgasm is being controlled, sometimes referred to as the submissive partner, is put into physical restraints, it may better control the orgasm (the activity is sometimes called tie and tease and if orgasm is denied it is tease and denial). Another possibility is for one partner to help produce multiple orgasms in the other.
Orgasm control can involve either one-sex partner being in control of the other partner’s orgasm, or someone delaying their own orgasm during either sexual intercourse or masturbation. To experience orgasm control, any method of sexual stimulation can be used – for example, manual, oral, intercourse, or with sex toys – either alone or by means of one or more active partners. Orgasm control is sometimes called “slow masturbation” or “extended massive orgasm”. It is similar to the Venus Butterfly technique described by Leah and Bob Schwartz in The One Hour Orgasm (1988).
In a two-person sexual activity, one partner would stimulate the other, gradually bringing them up to the point high in the plateau phase where an orgasm is actually building, and will then reduce the level of stimulation to just below that needed to trigger release. By carefully varying the intensity and speed of stimulation, and by practising with the same partner to learn their responses, a person can be held in the highly aroused state near orgasm for extended periods of time. This process may be repeated as desired, but at some point repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. Once enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm is provided, the release is often stronger than usual.
Since orgasm control prolongs the experience of powerful sexual sensations occurring during the final build-up to orgasm, the physical demands of being kept or keeping oneself in this highly excited state for an extended time can induce a pleasurable, almost euphoric state, and at times creates changes within an individual’s consciousness.
Orgasm control requires a degree of skill. It also requires enough familiarity with either a partner or one’s own responses to be able to vary the intensity and the timing of the stimulation accurately. If there is too little stimulation, or if it is reduced too soon, the experience is not as intense as it could have been. If there is too much stimulation, a person may pass the point of no return and orgasm occurs too soon.
Long term intimacy between orgasm control partners helps each to understand the level of erotic intensity required by their partner. The technique is an acquired skill that is developed through practice. Performing orgasm control with the same partner(s) for extended periods of time generally leads to greater success at the practice. The technique requires all partners to be aware of the others’ limits’. Likewise, in order to control your own orgasm, you need a good knowledge of your own body and how it reacts to different levels of sexual stimulation. Orgasm control is as much about knowing your own body as it is about the sexual skills of your partner(s).
Since solo masturbation allows for precise control over sexual stimulation, many people practice orgasm control by themselves. Masturbation is an easy way to learn one’s sexual limits. Wanking practiced with the aim of orgasm control should be carried out with the intention of making every stroke feel exquisite and not to relieve tension, in the way “simple” masturbation does. This can be done through a gradual stimulation of the genitals , followed by making connections between the primary area (penis or clitoris) and secondary areas (lips, nipples or other erogenous body parts). A proper connection between genitals and other areas has been established when they are stimulated with the same moves and to the same intensity.